- Make sure that you are genuine. Children can see
through false compliments, exaggerations, and flattery.
On the other hand, earning genuine praise makes children
feel good.
- After giving praise, make sure your children know
exactly what they did that pleased you, so they can
repeat the behavior.
- Be sure to tell them why you think what they did
was good, and how it will benefit them and others.
- Finally, get your child to respond to your praise
so you know he or she understands why you are pleased
with a particular action or behavior.
There are certain times where you may want to consider
adding reward as a fifth step. Rewarding your child
with a special privilege when you are especially pleased
with his or her behavior or when an outstanding improvement
has been made in a problem area will help to ensure
your child will repeat the positive behavior.
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