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Dealing With Your Child's Friends
Whenever Tyler came to play with 7-year-old Daphne, he
consistently broke the rules set by Daphne's parents, Ron
and Suzanne. After weeks of frustration, a friend suggested
Suzanne and Ron sit down with Tyler, along with their daughter,
and explain clearly, firmly, and kindly their expectations
when Tyler visits. She also suggested telling Tyler that if
he continued to disobey their rules, he would not be allowed
to visit for at least a week. Once Tyler knew what was expected
and the consequences that would follow if
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he didn't observe the rules, his behavior improved
and his visits became pleasant for everyone.
What should you do when your children's friends don't
respect your house rules? Boys Town Pediatrics suggests
the following guidelines for dealing with the situation.
- Teach your children in advance by making your expectations
clear. Remind them of your rules and let them know
that you expect their friends to follow them as well.
Some children will take it from there, telling friends
what is and what is not allowed. If this doesn't work,
try a non-confrontational approach with the friends,
stating your rules in a kind but firm manner.
- If the friend still doesn't follow the rules, or
if something comes up that hasn't been covered, be
direct and firm. If you remain firm but pleasant,
children often will comply.
- If your child's friend still refuses to follow your
rules despite all your efforts, consider not allowing
him or her to come to your house for a while.
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